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Life Design Coach
For life-changing exercises you actually follow through on. The goal is one life-changing exercise at a time, and real follow-through.
These articles are about practices that last longer than a week: a bedtime brain dump, a five-minute way to self-reflect, holding on to what a therapy session gave you, and why journaling habits fall apart.
Articles
Why you can’t stick to journaling (it’s not discipline)
You have started four times. Each time you were great for nine days and then it quietly stopped. The advice is always “build the habit”, which is the exact thing that already failed you four times.
How to self-reflect (without it turning into overthinking)
Sit quietly and ask yourself deep questions, they say. But most people who think they are reflecting are just chewing on the same bad moment for the ninth time and calling it growth.
What to do after a therapy session (so the good part doesn’t evaporate)
You walk out with something real and by Thursday it is gone. Here is how to catch the good part of a session before your normal week writes over it.
The bedtime brain dump: how to empty your head so you can sleep
Your brain re-presents unfinished business the moment the lights go off — not because it is broken, but because nothing else is holding the list. Give it somewhere to put things down.
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How to stop overthinking at night: two different loops, two different fixes
It is 1am, you have been horizontal for forty minutes, and your brain has chosen tonight to review a conversation from 2019. There are two versions of this problem and they need opposite treatment.
Afraid of making the wrong decision? The fear is the actual problem
The thing keeping you frozen usually is not the decision. It is a movie you are playing in your head of how much you will regret getting it wrong. That movie is not accurate.